Flirtation, adultery, student-teacher boundaries — again!
I get a fair number of emails from college students, almost always young women, who found this blog after having googled the phrase “student crushes”. I reposted the piece that I did on Tuesday after...
View ArticleOverselling agency: a reply to Barry Dank on teacher-student sex
Barry Dank picks a bone with my views on student crushes and professor-student amorous relations in this post of his yesterday: Crushing Student Crushes. Dank is a retired professor of sociology from...
View ArticleAge gaps, cultural barriers, and contemplating a tutor-student affair: a...
I got a Facebook message last week from a friend of mine named “Robin”. Robin is in her late twenties, and recently started tutoring English to Spanish-speaking employees at a large business in her...
View ArticleThe challenge of confrontation: dismantling rape culture one conversation at...
Clarisse Thorn wrote a Thanksgiving post, in which she raises an all-too-familiar problem: One very intense, very important issue I grappled with this week was having a friend email me to inform me...
View ArticleThe Cautery of Hate: on Breakups, Psychoanalysis, and the Healing Power of Rage
I was reminded of this story by an exchange with a friend today. Dealing with the end of an intense romantic relationship is painful, regardless of the terms on which that relationship took place....
View ArticleSex work and the classroom: double standards abound
Anna North has this story in Jezebel: Female Professor Fired For Burlesque Performance. See more at Inside Higher Ed. Only the latest in a string of cases in which women have been fired from teaching...
View ArticleThird Party Harassment, Third Party Complicity
My friend Emmylou wrote me after my Jezebel post appeared last Friday, noting that we need to remember the problem of “third party harassment”: the impact that the problem can have on witnesses. On...
View Article“Stop before you become the ‘dirty old man’”: a remembered morsel of advice
Not an hour ago, I had a vivid flashback to a conversation I had had in 1996, and hadn’t thought about since. I sometimes joke that it’s the drugs I did that have robbed me of certain memories, and...
View ArticleNot being able to trust praise: why erotic capital, isn’t
And a follow-up to yesterday’s post on erotic capital at GMP today: “I Can’t Trust Your Praise”: Why Erotic Capital Isn’t Capital. Conclusion: It’s been more than 13 years since I slept with a student...
View ArticleLosing it at GMP, and Why You Shouldn’t Sleep with Your Prof at Jezebel
Two new pieces up today. The first is part of the Our Sexual Vocabulary series at GMP: Why “Losing It” is Sometimes the Best Term for First Sex. Excerpt: I’m not troubled by the language of losing, as...
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